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Jan 25, 2012
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fuck yeah sex education: When I didn’t cry. Re Jane Elliott

nudiemuse:

gummymer:

nudiemuse:

I’m not including the video find it yourself.

I’m only going to say this once to every single person trying to focus on the weeping White children and whatnot.

Fuck you and fuck your tears.

I do not give a tin shit if someone watches that, or participates in something like that…

its horrible what people have to suffer through because of idiotic prejudices; but aggression doesn’t stop ignorance. to quote martin luther king jr “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

Do not talk to people of color like that. You’re young but just don’t. Also do not put words into peoples mouths. I did not say at any point that I hate anyone.

http://nudiemuse.tumblr.com/post/16400443440/just-so-were-all-clear

Since you don’t seem to get where I’m coming from and how I’m surviving life.

Regular readers- sorry I keep posting this but I’m not in the mood to see this flavor of bullshit on my dash today.

Also anyone else who wants to chime in with anything like this remove the link so I don’t see it.

Except that girl was totally respectful and made a very legitimate point.

What’s your problem again?

僕らは皆よりも・・・: fuck yeah sex education: When I didn’t cry. Re Jane Elliott

My problem is as follows:

A.) People putting words in my mouth.

B.) People being purposefully obtuse.

C.) Twisting my language in order to try and manipulate me into silence.

D.) Tone Policing.

E.)Anything remotely resembling ad hominem bullshit.

If you are unfamiliar with any of those things Google them.

I also responded to her directly as follows the bolding is the main issue:

gummymer asked: i’d just like to apologize, because i didn’t actually see the video so i didn’t understand the reference. i read it out of context. but i wasn’t trying to say you hate anyone. i’m a bit of a hippie and i live with a family that is very open, so i have a tendency to wish everyone could just love each other

Thank you for apologizing.

I realize you’re young but seriously before you ever engage with someone especially a person of color who is talking about racism, first thing you need to do is understand that the person (me in this case) might be very loving but love will does not always help me or people like me survive.

If nothing else understand that no matter what you or I wish for, the reality is that will not solve anything.

If you want to show how loving you are, give people space to talk. Learn when to say, oh shit that’s awful. Or ask questions before deciding that someone is wrong.

And for the love of all fluffy things and cute kittens, don’t ever invoke MLK that way to people of color. It really tends to make us incredibly angry.

Also, I did not grow up with a hippy family but, I am an extremely loving person. I love people and want them to be okay but not at the expense of my own survival.

I’m going to figure you didn’t read the breakdown of exactly what I meant in my original post. Just for you. After you read it if you still want to believe I’m the ignorant one in the situation bye.

Let me break it down for the bunch of people who just do not get what I was saying.

It was not about the specific girl in the short video from Jane Elliott’s workshop.

Let me repeat that.

It was not about or towards that person on a personal level.

My anger and fuck you is directed to the responses I saw to her being upset, in a situation that she volunteered for. It is anger about when the racism and discussion about racism is magically erased when a White person gets their feelings hurt.

The term White Lady Tears is applied when White people, often women use their tears and hurt feelings to manipulate or bully people of color into silence because it’s uncomfortable and yes it hurts when you do or say something hurtful and are called on it.

My fuck you is directed at the people who participate in that behaviour, who perpetuate it with their silence and in doing so perpetuate the racist bullshit I deal with every fucking day.

In this context, that girl in the video was the catalyst for an outpouring of OH NOES that did not extend to the actual lessons Ms. Elliott has worked for a long goddamn time to teach. Nor did those specific reactions extend to those of us who simply because of the color of our skin experience those things every day of our lives.

Further let me put it this way with something that yes actually happened to me.

In most of my classes through high school, I was often the only student of color. Or sometimes there was maybe one more.

In a class I was sitting in a note was passed around all about how (this is verbatim) “we only have to do this because of the darkie” during Black history month.

Rather than any of the white children being reprimanded or anything the teacher read it aloud, glanced at me and threw it away.

When I went to the teacher in tears I was told to “just ignore it”.

A few weeks later, another note was found saying that someone in the class was a slut. One girl (yes a White girl) decided it was about her, burst into tears and the ENTIRE CLASS had to apologize.

What lesson do you think I learned from that experience and the many like it I’ve experienced in my life? The lesson is that I as a Black child/person do not matter as much as the White child/person.

I say fuck you to a system that does that to me and has been doing it to me since the day I was born.

If what’s important to you are the hurt feelings of someone when they are caught or called out for their bad behavior bye.

You don’t get it and likely will have the supreme privilege of never getting it.

Now how to tell if you are doing this to a person of color me in particular.

Complete refusal to understand or even acknowledge the context of what I said.
Using a tone argument.
Calling me names based on an out of context phrase.
Sending me messages telling me I’m being mean.
Not saying to people who may be doing these things to stop.
Only having empathy for the people in the position of power.
Also if you are using the tumblrs you can use the googles.

I won’t do it for you because it’s not my job to prove or give evidence of these things.

Furthermore understand if you understand nothing else that while the video was an experiment, the things I’m talking about are my actual life and real pain and real anger.

If you can do none of these things, do not talk to or about me. Keep it to yourself.